There’s really no objective basis in evaluating whether a person is a better human than another. What we only have as guidelines in living in this world are the different natural, legal, moral, and spiritual laws.
Dying from falling from a high cliff, obesity from overeating, fatigue from not sleeping for more than seven hours a day—these are natural laws because they are based on facts, though we only follow these rules when we realize its value to our mortality.
On another note, what’s legal is dependent on which society you are in. Even our religious beliefs are different, as evidenced by the many religions in the world.
In short, laws we impose to ourselves are not the laws that all people follow. Laws can be subjective depending on location, family culture and tradition, societal norms, personal influences, and personal biases. One may think that you are the most perfect human that existed, but a lot of delusional people think that way about themselves.
On the other hand, there are generic ways to become a better human. Generic may not sound so good, but every time you don’t conform to a societal standard, you are perceived as a radical—mostly as its negative connotations. So here are some ways on how to become a better human being.
Characteristics of a Good Person—How to be Better toward Others
What you can do is be kind and do this without exceptions.
Kindness shouldn’t be just in words but also in actions. Even the simplest smile or morning greetings toward a coworker can make a huge difference to that person’s day. You don’t have to always help all the time; you can decline a request in a sympathetic and gentle manner, or simply, decline kindly.
The second is to help others when you can.
Proactively helping someone you see as needing help will allow you to build connections with people. You will never know when you will need a helping hand, and that is why it is better to collect “debts of gratitude” now for future use. Also, help not just physically but also emotionally. Sometimes, you will only need to let a person feel that you are there for them. That act itself shows that you are empathetic toward the feelings of people and compassionate enough to help as much as you can.
Never abuse because it is a vice.
Vices may have moral implications, but we’re talking more about vices that destroy our bodies. It is already a staple that to be a better human, you have to be healthy. Alcohol, smoking, overeating, overworking—there are so many ways to destroy your mind and body. Being a better human should start with how you take care of yourself.
To follow through, learn to forgive and forget.
Keeping heartbreaks and frustrations will only give you hypertension and stress. To move forward, you need to let go of the things that hold you in the past. Dreams and motivations should be the things you hold on to, not anchors in the form of grudges. Forgiving, however, doesn’t mean that what the other person did was okay. Let them fix their mistakes on their own while you do your best to let go of your anger before it leads to self-destruction.
Love people with all your heart.
Tell your family and friends that you love them. Don’t be shy with who you love. By generating an aura filled with enthusiasm and appreciation with the people around you, you can influence others to project the same kind of perspective, thus, creating an environment that is safe and filled with positivity.
For all this to work, you need to be honest, not just to other people but also to yourself. You know your limitations and preferences, and convincing yourself to do something that is against your will, will only cause you unnecessary stress.
Becoming a better human being is not something that needs to be validated by others; it is mostly you who will be encouraging yourself to be better. Being honest makes you credible and trustworthy in the eyes of other people; being honest with yourself allows you to draw people who accept you for who you are.